What to do when your feelings don’t matter to someone?

So I recently started dating someone and it has come to my attention that some people really don’t want to change at all for anyone to the point everyone but you is important.

I’ve always been really thoughtful and caring and when it comes to someone’s feelings I really try my best to consider them. I think it is so important for all of us to be acknowledged and even if this is out of our beliefs of comfort zones.

The one thing I almost find funny is this sentence I am about to talk about and I’m almost certain that those of you out there have either used this or had it been said to you. Now I don’t know maybe it’s just me but this sentence that was used on me, it’s not been the first time. I find it upsetting, confusing and damn right disrespectful. So here we go. This is what was said; “I know this is going to upset you but…” and then the rest was obviously something that upset me.

Ok now I’m not sure why someone would firstly tell you that something is going to upset you. Secondly why would you do it then if it’s going to upset them when there are clearly other options. Finally just think about what your saying! It’s showing that you don’t care enough. Almost like o well you will be upset but il get to do what I want.

These people just aren’t worth my time. I can’t ever imagine doing something if I knew it was going to upset someone. Especially if it was something that I could find another way. I’m trying to teach my daughter to be strong minded and confident but this behaviour is almost spiteful and I will be telling her when she is older to not accept people to be this way.

Unfortunately if you want a relationship to work you need to focus on the two people in that relationship not ex partners or friends just the two of you. At the end of the day all you will see is everyone else in a happy relationship and your alone because you haven’t made that person feel important enough.

For those of you in relationships think about how you speak to each other and how you communicate. Are you putting their needs first like they do with you. Are you really caring about their feelings like you say or just Brushing it off because it’s not affecting you. For those of you who are single. Stop taking this behaviour from people as it really isn’t acceptable. They either care or they don’t. Walk away as you deserve more! I think these days people seem to accept their partners being nasty but seriously you shouldn’t be taking it.

Be caring to yourself and others xx

Where has respect gone?

I won’t lie this blog may come over as a slight rant at society but it will also come across as something far too familiar to many of you.

As many of you know that follow of me, I have been doing some gardening to help with my mental health and overall well being. It was supposed to be something positive in my life and having my garden to look at would be a perfect reminder to enjoy the little things in life.

Well today that was thought was driven over. This isn’t a metaphor. Nope. Someone had drove over my front garden, knocked down my fence and smashed up my plant pots.

Firstly my reaction to this was pure rage! I mean what is wrong with society. Does anyone have respect for anyone or their property anymore? It’s really sad to think my daughter is going to live in a world where know-one shows respect for her or her feelings.

I grew up in a family where we were taught to be nice to everyone and be respectful to one another. Now if I’m correct in thinking, this is not that difficult. It’s not that hard to NOT drive over someone’s garden. If you feel I’m wrong please take your driving test again to know the difference between road and grass.

Secondly I felt and overall sadness for what had happened. I always keep to myself where I live I’m not noisy or messy I am what I call a good neighbour. So for someone to do this it’s made me question was this out of stupidity on their part or out of some sort of hate towards me. It’s left me feeling pretty low this afternoon. I had a lovely time with my daughter painting this morning and then when I saw my garden I have just felt the opposite of how I am meant to when I look at my garden.

I guess I am writing this blog out of sadness that the world just isn’t a place that I would like it to be. It isn’t inspiring and caring and loving. It has these people that just have no regard for peoples feelings. It isn’t easy for me to find time to do my garden having my daughter full time and I was proud of myself for doing it and making it look nice. I would just like to say to those out there who also have these idiots around them to know that I feel your sadness and anger, however it is those people that have lack of respect. It is those who lead these lives that don’t care about others. So yes it’s upsetting but it’s more upsetting that these people exist.

I won’t let these people ruin what I’ve worked so hard to achieve. Mental health is hard enough to cope with. We all need to be there for each other and support each other. Here for anyone who needs to rant too! ☺️

Be caring to yourself xx