Being the impossible

Why is it we are always trying to be something we aren’t. Whether it’s our identity, our religion, our work or our relationships we are always fighting ourselves.

For me I’ve always struggled with my identify mostly because I am so different to my family, especially my sister. For one I’m a lesbian which my sister or any other family member or friend isn’t. Secondly I don’t have a stable career; my sister has always known what she wanted to do and she stuck to it. Then add being Vegan on top of that and I couldn’t feel more out of place with the world. It’s almost like I just can’t keep up.

The problem is there is so much media these days that we all then feel like we aren’t doing enough. We aren’t skinny enough or fit enough, we can’t do amazing tricks or paint beautiful portraits. Not saying these people don’t work extremely hard at their skills and professions.

So why are we feeling so bad after seeing these things? Especially when we know how they got to be that way. I think a part of it is inner guilt. A lack of trying that we know we could do more but we choose not too. I know myself I really struggle to have motivation due to my bouts of anxiety and depression. I also give up really easily on tasks. Is this something I’ve chosen to be or how I am though? Is it my fault I can’t match up to expectations?

Recently I have been really looking at myself and my life. I have noticed what part of the problem is and that’s self love. I’m never seeing the good parts of myself I don’t say to myself your doing a great job raising a baby by yourself. Instead I’m always focusing on what I’m not doing. We always want more we always focus on the future and what we need to do never on the present and how much we have already accomplished.

The thing is we can’t compare ourselves with others because we are all so different. We all believe in something different we all have priorities that are more or less important and we all think differently. This doesn’t mean there aren’t people out there that have these same values as you. It’s just finding communities that make you feel more supported and safe and understood.

Maybe next time you see an Instagram post, blog or news report don’t even think about relating it to yourself because you can’t! Yes we can admire it, enjoy it or even learn from it but don’t compare your life to it. Your special, important and worthy in your own way. Learn to love your life the way it is. It’s what makes you, YOU. Love the life you live and live the life you love.

Be caring to yourself xx

Vegan parent

I’ve been vegan for over 3 years and my daughter since forever. I became vegan due to moral reasons and the belief that all beings should be treated and loved equally. I wanted to share this with my daughter so that she is brought up caring for animals and loving them purely.

I was one of those people who used to say I loved animals. Meanwhile there are many out there suffering, being taken from their mothers, and slaughtered in horrific ways. Therefore I made the choice to actually put actions to words and stop supporting the animal industry in all forms.

There is such a large range of vegan food out there now it’s insane! Even when I started veganism I was fairly lucky to have some options of meals, snacks and the cheeky ice cream. However now in 2021 the options are endless and you are actually standing at the ice cream section trying to decide which delicious ice cream to try next.

So why am I writing this post? Well before I even fell pregnant with my daughter I received all the negative comments associated with being vegan and raising a child. From where will she get her protein to she is missing out on meat!

Well I can safely say throughout my pregnancy I had zero complications and delivered a healthy 7lb 11 oz beautiful baby girl. She has had soya formula as a young baby and then went straight onto soya. She has plenty of vegetables and fruits topped up with a daily multivitamin which I add all babies and children need.

She has treats like her favourite dairy free chocolate buttons which she loves. And Sunday we have ice cream Sunday! She still gets to have things like fish-less fingers and nuggets like other children. She is never missing out and gets all the protein she needs!

On her birthday she also has an amazing chocolate cake which she loves.

We have a dog at home called bailey who she loves and cares for and her love for animals is beyond beautiful. She knows we don’t eat animals and the reasons why. I have always been honest from the start why we don’t eat animals. I often here parents trying to hide the truth from their kids because they don’t want them to be different to them or an inconvenience. However to me it’s so important for children to know not only what meat is but where it comes from.

I will always make sure she is never left out at school and birthday parties or celebrations and of course when she is older it will be her choice if she stays vegan. But for me I wish I knew when I was younger what happened to animals. I’m sure I would of been vegan many years ago.

If you are a vegan parent, your doing a fantastic job, keep it up and stay strong to your beliefs. If your thinking of becoming vegan or raising your child vegan. Go for it! It’s super easy to do now and you will feel so much better for it and your supporting the environment for our generations to enjoy.

Be caring to everyone xx